Because You Are Love
This piece was inspired by a lot of reflection and inquiry into the trap and burden of physical beauty in this world. More specifically, in this society. I am currently working on a book that explores this in great depth, but what I wanted to express, shortly and sweetly, with this piece was this:
We all want to be beautiful and have the perfect body because we honestly believe that those people are more loved, and that if we can achieve that, then we will be more loved too. We think we’ll be more adored, more respected, more approved-of, and acceptable. But is that really true? Think about it, imagine the most beautiful woman you can think of, the one you’d like to look-like, do you feel love towards her? Or is it something else entirely? More like a realm of negative emotions about yourself, which you then project onto her, and so all she experiences is people’s pain around her. And how do you feel when you are carrying the huge burden of having to be beautiful, and you dress to the 9′s and are so busy worrying about making an impression that you can’t even be present for a friend or family member and give them your full attention? Not only do we not feel loved when we are caught in this game, we are not BEING the love that we are – we are not there, wholly, and fully engaged in our lives, we are not fully there for the ones we love – and that hurts more than anything.
So we all know how it feels to be the one that has to beautiful, because we’ve all tried our best to do so at one point or another in our lives. It’s an incredible burden, an insane amount of pressure, and for me, it’s time to put that burden down. The MOST beautiful times in our lives have nothing to do with physical beauty. They come from a place of unconditional love – and THAT is truly beautiful. The most beautiful people I know are those who are authentically, unapologetically, themselves. Because they’ve stopped judging THEMSELVES, you don’t feel that judgement projected when you are around them, without those judgements we are free to be the love that we are, and THAT is what makes us truly loved. Take it to the next step, and you’ll see that it doesn’t matter who loves you from the outside, the only lack-of-love you’ll ever feel, is your own lack of love for yourself. Someone could tell you you’re beautiful and loved a thousand times, but you’ll never experience that as long as you don’t believe it and hold it within for yourself.
Of course, dropping this burden and living this truth does not require that you stop brushing your hair or wearing earrings or dressing however you like! It just means that you no longer put your whole sense of self into it, you are no longer seeking love and approval FROM it, it’s just for your own joy.
I go into all of this in much greater detail and exploration in the book I am working on now, I will post excerpts of it, if anyone is interested. :)